Friday, June 25, 2010

Little Prince?

People keep referring to their sons as little princes and their daughters as little princesses. Really people?

Something about that just seems so overdone. Fake. Do you really believe that stuff?

I think my daughter is unique and special beyond measure. I think she is valuable and worth more than any precious stones or expensive metals. But I have no illusions about her being royalty. Of purer or nobler blood than anyone else.

That being said, my daughter's name does mean 'of noble blood' so maybe I'm full of it.

Friday, June 11, 2010

Sometimes my heart is broken. I don't know how to hang out with people who are doing things I don't approve of. I don't know how to watch people treat their children like dogs. I don't know how to ignore it or impact it. I don't know how it will impact my daughter. Bah.

I'm trying some new diapers. I have 9 different diapers in my rotation. I always thought mamas who had so many different kinds were weird. It seemed strange that they didn't just get a whole set of the ones that they liked. Now, I'm one of those crazy, weird, cloth diaper obsessed mamas!

Does anybody know anything about converting diapers? I have some Mother Ease and the snaps are sharp on the inside. I need to alter them somehow so that the sharp parts can't poke or scratch Adelaide. I'm not sure what I want to do with them, I just know I can't throw away perfectly good diapers!

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

The evolution of a previous point

I do not desire obedience from my children.
More to the point, I do not desire simple, obedient children who will grow up to be simple, obedient sheep to whatever shepherd finds them.

I'm not really sure how obedience became the ultimate goal for kids. I want so much more than obedience. I want strong, confident, faithful children who can walk into a forest, see the leaves, see the trees, see the branches, and see the place the forest has in the world. I want children who can make a decision about right and wrong without having to think about what someone might think, or what I would tell them to do. I want them to be able to make those decisions because I've taught them to think for themselves.

Obedience doesn't come close to that.

Obedience teaches submission. In theory, that's a good thing to have from your kids. But only in theory. Why would I want to raise kids who are submissive adults? Even as a wife, I expect my daughter to be much more than simply submissive. Yes, there is a place for submission in a marriage, but not the way people seem to think. How could I expect my (theoretical) sons to lead their families if all I've taught them is submissive obedience? I do not want my children at the mercy of a charismatic leader.

I want to raise disciples. I do not want disciplined (read=punished) kids. I want the discipline my children learn to be the discipline that keeps them hungry for the Word, and the last person to get fired from a job. I want the discipline my children learn to be the discipline that teaches them to sacrifice themselves for others not out of habit but out of love. Out of passion.

I want children who will fight the good fight with me. I don't need them to be my friends, but I do need to know that their presence is making the world a better place. That they're ready and able to evaluate an action, movement, question, etc and determine the what's good and holy in the situation. I want kids who know how to do that because they've been doing it since they were little. That kind of fire comes from being allowed to choose incorrectly. Then learning how to do better next time.

I'm all fired up and preachy tonight, but too tired to finish this post well. Blah!

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